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Article: Knowing what you want helps you get it
by Laura Szmuch
The above is one of the basic presuppositions of
NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming). As one of the pillars of
NLP is, precisely,
outcome orientation,
one of the basic conditions to get what we want is, quite obviously,
to know what we want.
Many people inhabit the eternal complaint that things are not the way they
would like them to be. However, they haven't got the slightest idea of how
they would like things to be. In order to have the possibility to achieve
something, it is essential that we first are certain of
what it is that we want.
Do I always get what I
want if I know what I want?
No, not always.
Anyway, the mere fact that we know it is the first step to start designing
the life we want. Many times we drift through life. And sometimes it is
positive that it is that way. There are periods in life when we have no
clear direction, or when we gather information about possibilities, or we
take a rest to assess our present state. And there are other stages in
life when we take the reins of our own lives and we make decisions and we
take action. We are the protagonists
of our own decisions. And we don't blame anyone else that we have arrived
nowhere if we had never had a clear destination in mind in the first place.
Take a few seconds to
think about this:
If you take a taxi and
you tell the taxi driver: "Take me"
What do you think can
happen?
One possibility is that
the taxi driver might ask you where it is that you want to go….and that
would solve the embarrassing situation- not to take into account the fact
that he might understand something else, of course…Mmmm
It is also possible
that he will NOT ask you, and he takes you where HE wants to
take you…And you might like it…but, what would happen if you didn't?
Exactly the same thing
happens in life when we don't make our own decisions: other people make
them for us.
As I have said before,
we can't possibly get what we want if we don't know what we want. And
simply knowing what we want is no guarantee of getting it. Unless….unless
we take action.
Once we know what we
want, it is essential that we are as specific as possible about our goal.
Does that mean that I
must be terribly strict and only expect what fits those "specifications"?
No, absolutely not.
What I mean is that simply saying "I want a big house", for example, is not
enough.
What kind of house do
you want?
How many rooms are
there in your "big house"?
How many
bathrooms?
Is there a patio or a
garden? A park?
Where do you want it to
be?
Describe the house of
your dreams exactly the way you want it.
How much money are you
ready to pay for it?
What do you want the
big house for?
And so on…
Once you imagine it,
what you want starts to take shape in your mind.
You are not going to
get the house of your dreams unless you have a house in your
dreams.
You may not find
exactly the house you have dreamt about, however, the fact that you have
placed it in your mind in great detail is the first step.
Is dreaming about it
enough?
No, but it is
wonderful. Once you dream about it with all your senses, you MUST take
action to get it. NLP offers us loads of techniques to help us get what we
want.
Your homework, dear
reader, is to start asking yourself what you want in the different areas of
your life, for example: personal, professional, family, health, finance,etc
Start thinking-if you
haven't already done it, of course- that you can design your own
life, or enjoy more what you absolutely love about it.
Until next time!
Laura Szmuch©*
www.lauraszmuch.com.ar
lauraszmuch@gmail.com
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* Laura
is a graduate of INSP "Dr JV Gonzalez, and master Practitioner and Trainer
in NLP.She
applies NLP to her English teaching. She is the co-founder of
Resourceful Teaching, an educational consultancy,
and produces the e-zines called RTNews and En
Contacto. She runs NLP courses for teachers and other
professionals both in English and in Spanish and coordinates
self-development workshops, courses and retreats, among them
"A Spa for the Teacher's Soul".
She has
written " Aprendiendo Inglés, y disfrutando el proceso",
and co-authored "Really Thriving" of forthcoming
publication.At
present she is training as a Transformational Ontological
Coach and as a
Pychoneuroeducator.
What is NLP?
NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming
NLP
is an eclectic body of thought which is a branch of the Cognitive Sciences
and Cognitive Behavioural Psychology. It grew out of General Semantics (Korzybski),
Transformational Grammar (Chomsky), Anthropology and Cybernetics (Bateson),
Reframing (Watzlawick et al), Family Systems (Virginia Satir), Gestalt
Therapy(Perls), Medical Hypnosis (Erickson) and several related studies.
Its founders were Richard Bandler (a mathematician) and John Grinder (a
linguist) who, in the early 70s, set out to discover the "structure of
excellence".
What NLP training does for you....
This acronym
reminds us of the fact that our mind and body are interconnected and that we
are responsible for the models of the world we create.
NLP training has two areas of application:
1. How we communicate with others
2. How we communicate with ourselves
It also aims at revealing the underlying structure of excellence. It
offers answers to the question of "how" to do things effectively, or rather,
how successful people in different fields do what they do wonderfully.
It analyses subjective experience, taking into account patterns of
behaviour, capability, values, beliefs, mission in life and internal
representations of reality.
It offers a learnable technology which can help us improve performance and
communication, overcome limitations, achieve goals and confidence in
different areas of our lives.
With training in NLP we learn how to get rapport with virtually anybody, how
to become flexible in our communication, how to use language effectively.
We learn how to deal with conflict on a win-win basis, how to tap our
resources (such as confidence, competence, inner peace, motivation, health,
abundance, etc.), how to discover our strategies (of excellence, creativity,
good memory, etc.), how to work with our beliefs and other levels of growth
and learning and how our brains code our subjective experience.
Resourceful Teaching©
www.resourcefulteaching.com.ar
Espanol
Y en español,
para compartir con amigos y familiares:
Nota:
Si sé lo que quiero voy a conseguirlo
Esta es una
de las presuposiciones básicas de la PNL.
Como uno de los pilares de la PNL
es, precisamente, la orientación hacia el
logro de objetivos,
una de las condiciones básicas para poder conseguir lo que queremos, es,
obviamente, saber qué es lo que queremos.
Mucha gente vive en la queja
constante de que las cosas no son como les gustaría que fueran. Sin
embargo, no saben cómo les gustaría que fueran. Para poder tener la
posibilidad de lograr algo , primero debemos tener la certeza de
qué es lo que queremos.
¿Siempre consigo lo que quiero si
sé qué es lo que quiero?
No, no siempre. No obstante, el
saberlo es el primer paso para poder empezar a diseñar la vida que
queremos. Muchas veces vamos por la vida sin rumbo. A veces está bien
que así sea. Hay períodos en la vida en los que nos dejamos llevar, o
juntamos información acerca de posibilidades, o nos tomamos un descanso para
evaluar nuestro estado actual. Y hay otros períodos en la vida en los que
nosotros tomamos las riendas y decidimos y actuamos. Somos
protagonistas de nuestras decisiones. Y no culpamos a nadie por no
haber llegado a ninguna parte si jamás nos habíamos propuesto un determinado
destino.
Piensa en este ejemplo:
Si subes a un taxi y le dices al
taxista: "Lléveme"
¿Qué crees que puede llegar a
suceder?
Es posible que el taxista te
pregunte dónde quieres ir, y ahí estaría solucionado el tema.
También es factible que no te
pregunte, y te lleve donde él quiere.
Y tal vez te guste…pero, ¿y si no
te gustara?
Lo mismo sucede en la vida cuando
no tomamos nuestras propias decisiones: otros las toman por nosotros.
Como dije anteriormente, no
podemos conseguir lo que queremos, si no sabemos lo que queremos. Y sólo
saber qué es lo que queremos, no es garantía de conseguirlo, a no ser que
nos pongamos en movimiento para hacerlo.
Una vez que sabemos qué es lo que
queremos es bueno ser lo más específico posible acerca de nuestro objetivo.
¿Eso quiere decir que me tengo que
poner estricto y sólo esperar lo que entra dentro de esas "especificidades"?
No, absolutamente no. Lo que
quiero decir es que con sólo decir "Quiero una casa grande", por ejemplo, no
es suficiente.
¿Qué tipo
de casa quieres?
¿Cuántos
cuartos tiene tu "casa grande"?
¿Cuántos
baños?
¿Tiene
patio o jardín? ¿Parque?
¿Dónde
quieres que esté?
Describe
la casa de tus sueños tal y como la quieres.
¿Qué
cantidad de dinero estás dispuesto a pagar por ella?
¿Para qué
quieres una casa grande?
etc
Una vez que la imaginas, lo que
quieres empieza a tomar forma en tu mente.
No vas a poder conseguir la casa
de tus sueños a no ser que tengas una casa en tus sueños.
Quizás no encuentres exactamente
la que soñaste, sin embargo, el haberla puesto en tu mente con bastante
detalle es el primer paso.
¿Y soñarla es suficiente?
No, pero es maravilloso. Y una vez
que la sueñas, tienes que ponerte en marcha para conseguirla.
La
PNL ofrece
muchísimas técnicas para crear y lograr objetivos.
En próximos números te iré
contando acerca de ellas.
Mientras
tanto, te invito a que empieces a preguntarte qué es lo que quieres en tu
vida en sus distintos ámbitos, como por ejemplo: personal, laboral,
familiar, etc
Esa es
TU TAREA, querido lector, para este mes. Empezar a pensar que puedes
diseñar tu vida, o aumentar lo que te gusta de ella.
¡Hasta la próxima!Laura
Szmuch©
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